Eleven things you really don't need in a relationship

Here Are 11 things that you really don't need to be dealing with in a relationship, have a read and see if any apply to your current relationship, might be a bit of an eye opener.

Being lazy in a relationship is something people should be ashamed of. If you're making effort to do things for your partner, spend time with them, organise dates and want to go out with them and they don't bother to do it back or even say thank you then you really need to re-evaluate things. You deserve to be treated as well as you treat them.

If a partner just isn't interested in you, your hobbies, your life in general or even spending time with you then can you even really call it a relationship? You should be in relationships with people that ask about your day, who want to know what you actually did in work (even though it was the exact same as yesterday) and who are actually interested in going out with you and spending time with you.

Being hot and cold
Being hot and cold in a relationship is in my opinion literally one of the worst things anyone can do as a person. If someone messes with your emotions by acting all lovey dovey then not wanting to even send you more than one-word messages then you do not need them in your life. No way.

If you feel lonely when you're in a relationship maybe you need to think things through. If you partner is being distanced and not wanting to spend time with you and you feel lonely even when you're in the same room as them then maybe you're just not right for each other.

Empty promises
People who make promises and then never keep them they really aren't worth your time and effort. It's not healthy to be in a relationship with someone who says one thing then does another or promises they will do something for you and then just doesn't. You should be with someone who does what they say they will and not just avoid going on dates that you're promised or won't do that one thing they promised they'd do last week.

Lack of effort 
People who never ever bother to put effort into a relationship are literally the worst. If you're in a relationship where you're the only one putting the effort in 24/7 then you just need to stop. You're worth the effort and there is someone out there willing to put the effort in to make you happy. Go find them.

If someone is unfaithful to you then why the hell are you still with them. You should not put yourself through staying with someone that talks to 5/6 other people and sleeps around at any given opportunity. 

Relationships are built on trust and honest. If your partner is keeping things from you (other than surprise birthday plans, they're always okay in my books) then remind me why you trust them and want to be with them? 

Lack of respect 
If someone does not respect you, your opinions, your choices or your belongings then you shouldn't call them a friend, and sure as heck not call them your partner. You shouldn't let yourself be walked all over or treated badly in a relationship, and if someone respected you then you'd be treated so much better, so why not go and find someone who will respect you, I guarantee they're better for you.

Feeling like you're not wanted or needed
If you're in a relationship where you feel like you're not wanted or needed then remind me again why you're in a relationship? The whole point of being in a relationship with someone is that they want you around, wants to spend time with you and maybe even that they feel like they need you for their life to be complete (maybe a bit cliché I know, but it's a nice thought right?).

If you're being manipulated into staying with someone you need to get yourself the heck out of that predicament. If you have tried to break up with someone or are thinking about it and they're manipulating you into staying with them then that is really not okay. Speak to family and friends (or even me if you want) for advice and get them to help you out of the situation!!

I hope this post was informative to you, some people don't know what to look for as bad things in a relationship and in my opinion, none of the above can lead to a healthy relationship so its best to end it. If you know anyone that might benefit from this post then send it over and you might help them get away from a toxic relationship and lead into a better one.

Have you been in a relationship with some of these things thrown in there? Start a discussion in the comments about the best things to do
to make it better or get out of the situation!
Let's help each other out.

Thank you for reading,

Mandy x

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